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Rodger’s Mishgosh – Good date or bad date, good relationship or bad relationship or good marriage or bad marriage, all of them are in your book. I look at our lives as being a book that has many chapters in it. If you had a bad marriage years ago, it was a chapter in your life. Who did what and when and this happened or that happened, good or bad it was part of your life in one of the chapters. We need to think of all the new chapters in the book that have not been written yet. The chapters that were written were the past things that happened to you and you don’t have to keep living them.    

Take a fresh approach and concentrate on the new chapters in your life. Think about how you want them to be written. Don’t let the old chapters take the place of the new chapter, there are new experiences to be put in those new chapters.    

When you are young you feel you have all the time in the world to do anything. As you get older your time goes by quickly. You had challenges when you were young, and you have other challenges now that you’re older. Each generation you go through becomes different. You will experience good and bad, but that is part of life.    

When we were young, it was all about ourselves. Some of us found having a partner of the opposite sex, and others choose not to have someone. Another chapter being written with new experiences. Some of us found ourselves getting attached to someone, and others didn’t. Some of us found ourselves getting married, and other didn’t. Some of us found ourselves having children, and other didn’t. We all have choices, and more chapters to be written.   

Some chose other directions to go from travelling or careers to taking care of someone, etc. Many of us had multiple choices to make, taking us into many directions. Others weren’t as adventurous. Some of us want to solve every problem or everybody’s problems and others aren’t interested at all. Some of us learn to move forward and keep learning, and other choose not to. We each have our own thoughts on this subject. Some of us are leaders, and others would rather follow and not make those decisions. No matter where you go, it is another chapter being written. We all have a different size book in our life.   

In my case, my children are having children themselves with more chapters being written. My children are married now, having their own families, and life goes on. Instead of my life slowing down, it is compounding with many more directions to go adding a lot more chapters in my book.   

I could tell you why some of my dates failed or why some of my relationships failed or why my first marriage failed or what I could or couldn’t have done differently. Those were old chapters in my book, and I am concentrating on the new chapters in my book with my family, friends and other interests.  The old chapters were already written and in most cases I can’t do anything about them. Good or bad, those chapters are done, and I have new chapters to work on.   

When you stop writing chapters, you are dead. I still have a lot of life left, with more experiences to experience, with more chapters to be written. In my case, I am not only looking out for just myself, but my wife, family and friends, too. If I was a tree being born, I was a very small tree. Now that tree has grown into this huge tree that keeps on getting bigger. There are branches that have died or were ill or not doing so well, but the overall tree to doing great. The tree keeps growing adding even more chapters to my book. In some ways, it has encouraged other trees to be the same way as my tree. When will life slow down, I don’t know. Life changes directions at times, but in my case, it has been very enjoyable with more chapters being written.    

I rarely think about the old chapters in my book. I know people that can’t stop talking about a past marriage or relationships or dates, as though they are still living those experiences. They just don’t realize those chapters have already been written, and they need to focus on the new chapters in their life. Most people aren’t interested in hearing about the old chapters, but want to develop new directions for fresh chapters to be written. Because something happened in the past with someone, it might not be the same for you. Who wants to take the blame for something that happen to someone else? If you had a bad husband in the past and you want to go out with me, are you going to say I am a bad person because I am a man too? Each person is an individual and should be treated as a different person, instead of saying all men or women are the same. Having good or bad in your life are other chapters.   

When your book is finished, your life is over. All the thoughts of what you want or don’t want to do is done. Some of us will leave our mark with other people, and others will fade away altogether. We have a limited amount of time to write our book, and the chapters can vary from one person to another in positive or negative directions. I want a very large book that has an enormous number of chapters. I want to put my positive mark on many people. I want to keep learning to be better. The more I try, the more success will come my way. I know I am older and that is life, but I will do my best with the time I have in all the directions I choose to go. I will be adding a lot more chapters to my book. I think of the future, the present and the past. I want to make the time I have left a positive experience for myself and the people around me, taking it one day a time.